Consider Therapy Before the “I Do’s”

Weddings are great celebrations and with that comes great stress. Some couples consider getting counseling to make sure that they’re ready for marriage and to start their marriage with a great start. There might be issues that come up with family or from previous relationships before your big day. It would be best to get counseling before the marriage starts.

Many couples seek counseling after many years together and when it’s too late. Most couples can avoid severe problems in relationships if they talk about the issues that might come up in their relationship before those issues became a huge roadblock in the marriage. Some people don’t like to think that any issues could be a bigger problem when they’re just about to tie the knot. At the end of the day, ignoring problems will only let them get out of hand. Talking about them constructively in an office, away from home, with a compassionate ear and sometimes interpreter can assist in managing the issues and coming up with solutions.

Before the wedding, many people feel stressed with family and friends causing problems. I’ve heard stories of absent maids of honor and family members with drug addiction issues contributing to stress of an event. A therapist can help a couple to vent and find a place to leave the stress of these type of issues. Some therapists might even help with solutions or encourage a person to take care of themselves, when it’s necessary.

Some couples take the issues of previous relationships with them. It may be difficult for one person in the couple to talk to the other about communication problems that stem from a previous relationship. Some people have been abused or otherwise silenced in previous relationships. If the mention of an ex is a sore subject in the relationship, it’s best, again, to have a space separate from your living space to talk with a professional about the problem. Many times, I’ve helped clients to have a better understanding of their emotions and empathy for other person. Having a therapist who both of you trust can assist in overcoming issues from previous relationships.

To make sure your relationship is assured the strength to last through the years, consider having couples counseling before your big day. A professional can help find solutions and ways of coping with any issue that might be on the horizon. I feel as though sometimes my part in a couples counseling is an interpreter to assist in communication when a couple are essentially talking about the same issue but with a different frame of reference. To assure the endurance of your relationship, professional services may be needed.